ldt050: Falling in Love Without Being in Love
#050 - [ Falling in Love Without Being in Love ] [ netspread ]
Sometimes when a relationship is fresh and new, it feels like love. And it can go on to feel like love for a long time. After awhile once everything becomes habitual and secure and you seem to enjoy the feeling of security and safety more than you do being aroud the person, is that still love? Or is it setteling? I mean how many married couples do you see that appear to be content as opposed to in love. Rather how many do you see that are in discontent than in love. Would it be better to be alone with no one, content with someone, discontent with someone, or hold out your whole life waiting for that "real love"?
Im not saying that you can't be content and be in love. But I believe there is a fine line between the two that we walk.
Myself for instance. When I first met the girl I am with now, I was totally enthralled in her and her existence. I did anything and everything in my power to impress her and make her happy. Now time has taken its toll. By far she is the best female I have ever met. Despite her lack of self thoughts. She would do anything and everything in her power for me. I could go to jail for years and get out knowing she was faithfull and true to me. I do care for her and love her alot. But her intellect doesnt stimulate me.
Im just giving my example of a situation. You could have a female the completely, mentally, stimulated you. While being a total cunt. In my situation my girl is the nicest, sweetest, most kind hearted person I know. I choose to get my mental stimulation else where.
I have the fullest intention of marrying my girl (chanel) and spending the rest of my life with her. I KNOW THAT I WILL NEVER FIND ANOTHER FEMALE as competent as her. She can deal with anything I throw her way. Whether it be my infidelity, enebriation on drugs, drunken rants, etc. She with all her heart loves me. And I have never had that before. Some of my mates say I am setteling and that I deserve a girl with more of her own thoughts and opinions. But, why should I loose the best thing that has ever happend to me on the gamble that I may one day find something better.
I dont believe that for the average person there is "true love". There never has been, there probably never will be. I cant imagine living my life without someone by my side.
Is it natural to live your life thinking the grass greener on the other side. Or settle for something that meets up to any standards you could ever set for yourself without being arrogantly fickle? There is no such thing as perfection. You can reach for it your whole life. Dont fuck up something good hopeing for something better............My girl is everything that I am not. All the qualities I lack she makes up for. Its a perfect blend of good and evil, right and wrong. And vice versa for me. Everything she lacks, I possess. I dont feel that a person could deal with a clone of themselves. To me it really is being in love. I could not function without her. I couldnt imagine my days without her. I need her opposite end of the spectrum opinion to help myself make better choices. I would be a worthless being without her.
netspread/RJ
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